Co-Dependency

When a loved one is an addict of substance, those who surround him or her may inadvertently take supportive or protective measures that allow the addiction to continue. This “enabling” behavior makes it easier for the addict because consequences are removed, and responsibility for behavior shifts. Taking responsibility for an addicts (or anyone else’s) behavior is co-dependency.

The American Psychiatric Association (APA) recognizes co-dependency as a personality disorder.  Its defining behavior is an individual willingly attaching self-esteem to being able to control and influence the behavior of other, even if it supports destructive behavior, at times reaching the point where the self is denied. When the addict seeks treatment, both parties should participate in the therapy, and seek treatment for co-dependency. Both parties have the need to overcome problems that interfere with living dignified and productive lives.

Types of Co-Dependent Behavior

  • Regularly doing things for another that they should do themselves
  • Making excuses for another’s behavior
  • Covering for a spouse or loved one when work is missed or responsibilities refused
  • Bailing out a child who has been arrested for drug possession, underage drinking, or other behaviors associated with substance abuse
  • Defending the substance abuser  rather than admitting a problem exists

Denying or ignoring negative and destructive behaviors, and mitigating their repercussions

Therapy Options

Because professional intervention is often required to treat co-dependency, and to address the attendant feelings that contribute to low self-esteem and destructive behaviors, a personalized treatment program is usually developed.  Treatment programs consist of individual therapy, support group participation, and couples and family therapy. Licensed professional mental health professionals are trained to develop and implement these programs.

Other Treatment options

Twelve-step programs

Because many codependency theories hold that it is a form of addiction, twelve-step programs have proved to be highly effective in its treatment. Organizations, such as Co-Dependents Anonymous hold meetings in most areas of the United States.

Medication

In many cases, co-dependency may have a dual diagnosis. Depression, anxiety disorder, and other mental illnesses may be intertwining, exacerbating all the issues. A doctor or psychiatrist may be able to recommend appropriate medication to help. Those who are undergoing medical treatment usually participate in other therapy programs as well.

If you or a loved one is in a codependent relationship, please fill out our Placement Form.