If you’re like most people, the answer is probably “not well.” Rejection is something that can affect us at any stage of our lives, and can leave a lasting impact. Many who don’t face this kind of disappointment in a healthy manner look to substances to ease the pain.
Life is full of it
Consider all the times rejection is possible. Being passed over for the promotion at work. Discovering a spouse is filing for divorce or was unfaithful. Not being invited to the big event. Teens who are bullied, picked last for the team or belittled by peers. Elderly people who feel alone and rejected by family members too busy to visit. Or even young children whose parents neglect them.
Managing our emotions
Rejection is inevitable. The question is, how do you handle it? Destructive behavior is a common way to deal with the pain — by overeating, lashing out at others, isolating themselves or medicating themselves with drugs or alcohol. Bu there are more effective ways.
The best way to handle rejection is to talk to someone, hands down. A teacher or parent who will listen. A friend, pastor or life coach. Even someone who feels all alone can receive help from a counselor or therapist. By talking, a person can find perspective, and see that life is not over. Eating right, exercising, meditating and taking walks are all ways to boost our emotional state.
Life is not fair, nor is it always easy — but time can heal. Expect challenges and yes, even rejection… but what matters is how we handle it.