The world of drug abuse is plagued with blame and regret, and these things often get in our way when we are trying to see the big picture and move on with our lives. Sometimes we need to take a step back and get a better perspective on things to help us see where we want to be going, and what kind of attitude we want to possess.
Self-Medicating with Drugs or Alcohol
Substance abuse often starts with a selfish attitude. The person may have had a bad day at work, or is experiencing some hardships. They may be looking to have a little fun with friends, or they want to reward themselves for a job well done. People often feel they deserve a few drinks or a hit of drugs, because of what they’ve done or been through. Or they may feel they deserve this high – just once – because they’ve been good for so long. When we self-medicate or reward with drugs or alcohol, we are standing at the top of a very slippery slope.
Blame From Family
Pretty soon, addiction takes over and the person is unable to stop. The blame game begins and the person and their family engage in arguments over whose fault the addiction and messed-up life are. Family members may admit that any trouble that comes to the addict is something that they deserve, because of what they have put others through. The addict may feel down on themselves and that they deserve to be helpless, homeless, and all alone. Or, the substance abuser may deep down feel resentment and blame toward their family members for leading them down this path in the first place.
Sobriety Is Not About Who Is Deserving
Thankfully, treatment is not based on who deserves it the most. Anyone who enters treatment with a willing and determined attitude can recover. Many people who have hit rock bottom do not feel deserving of any kindness from others, or any hope of recovery, yet are able to beat the addiction.
We humans like to rationalize things and have an explanation for everything. We want to know why things happen to certain people, and we want to know if the person got what they deserve or not. However, we are much more prepared to move ahead and work things out when we admit that we don’t have all the answers and that things happen for reasons we cannot understand. And, actually, some details are not important. What is important with addiction is that the person admits they have a problem, but that, whether others would say they deserve it or not, treatment and recovery are a possibility and are attainable with the right help. It doesn’t matter if a person thinks they deserve it or not, sobriety is open to all.